Ngee says… A while ago, I saw some lovely pictures of handbags on Instagram. As I took a long look at them, I realized that these bags did not just appear but manufactured and brought out to the society for a particular use. This reminded me of the role of family and its role as the production centre of the nation.

Whatever we see in society is a reflection of what is happening in our small clusters called family or what I call the production centre of the nation.

In this generation, with all our civilization, we have forgotten the role of family in nation building.
History has kept a reminder that character and morals were instituted in the home and it was termed ‘home training’.

The family was the first place we learnt to express ourselves. By telling the truth, understanding the place of hard work and whom to love or not to love. If family is the foundation of any society, it comes to bear that the change we are looking for is not with the society at large but with ourselves, in our small community called family.

Rich says….

We all have to recommit ourselves to personal development. This involves getting good values while standing against bad values and discouraging them. As we grow in character, we role-model for our children and encourage them to develop such character and hence; the society is built. 

Recently, Nigeria had a crisis – the Lekki massacre. Everyone who should be responsible denied their role and they got upset when the people called them out to take responsibility.

Most of us were shocked with their manner of approach in resolving the issue, but many failed to understand that this problem was not a leadership problem but a family problem.

  • How many times have you discussed with your spouse or children before making decisions for the family?
  • Do you take responsibility for a situation/mistake in the family as a husband/wife by apologizing to the family members, especially the children?

If we cannot take responsibility for our actions in the family, how can we take responsibility in the larger society?

Today, we want to lend our voice and call one another to order – “The society is you and I; and the change we seek begins with us. This is reflected in the family, which in turn is reflected in the society”.


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Ngee and Rich
(Dr. Richard and Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructors
Founders – Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3