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on Friday, 09 December 2016.

A HABIT SHOP 

“that caters to the needs in marriages, families and society.”

Our Vision

Strong marriage, strong family, healthy society.

Our Mission

Stirring up the culture of ONENESS IN MARRIAGE 

by reviving the moral values of the society; one family at a time.

Five Foundational Habits

  • Always – Consistent in what we do
  • Loving – Service to one another.( meeting people at their point of need)
  • Intimacy – (Doing things together)
  • Verifying – (Communication with feedback)
  • Everyday – Doing the four everyday till it becomes a habit)

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THE ART OF LISTENING

on Friday, 02 February 2018. Posted in Blog

I read a joke cum true life story that explains today's blog:

A couple were celebrating 50years of marriage, the wife made a toast and said

"I have enjoyed this 50years with you", and the husband raised his glass and replied -

" I have endured this 50years too".

You know what happened next? The celebration ended and the 50years marriage was dissolved.

This is an extreme example but this shows how important LISTENING is in any relationship especially between couples and most especially between parents and children.

I remember few years ago we were sharing a story about a teenager and our daughter calmly replied -"that's the problem with parents; they don't listen.

We were silent and began to check ourselves, are we among those parents that don't listen to their children because they look, sound and express themselves differently.

Every relationship thrives on communication and the ingredient for  successful communication is the ability to LISTEN objectively to the other party without assuming you already know what they are about to share.

Recently I had to pull my tooth and refill another; while the procedure was going on the lady at the front office asked if we were brushing our teeth the old way or new way.

Of course I sneered at her and wondered what nonsense she was talking about. My father was a dentist and my husband a doctor, what information can she possibly want to share that I don't know.

Out of curiosity we decided to listen and behold she was right,  teeth brushing technique had changed and the new technique reduces tooth decay and gum disease.

Today we want you to ask yourself these questions:

-Does my spouse complain that I don't listen?

-Do my children share their day with me or they prefer to be alone?

-Do I leave an open-mind during discussions even when I believe I know most of what is being discussed?

-Do I listen only to the words spoken or do I listen to the words, tone and body language of the speaker?

This weekend we ask you to make out time and LISTEN to your spouse, children, family and friends.

For when we truly LISTEN it shows that we love, appreciate, honour and respect the other person.

Love
Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative
Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)

My Scissors and I

on Monday, 12 February 2018. Posted in Blog

Several years ago I noticed that I seemed to struggle with any type of scissors. When used by others, it was sharp and worked well but if I tried using it – it just couldn’t work.

This occurred several times, till I studied the scissors

Looking at the scissors critically, I realized that the scissors only functions optimally when used or placed in a certain way. No matter how intelligent, bold or how I speak or hit the scissors, it couldn’t function as I wanted it to, till I held it the way it was created to function.

This led me to study other scissors (situations) in my  life and realized that every type of relationship or institution has a certain way it must be held or treated if you want to enjoy all its benefits.

Wealth requires – goal setting, planning, saving and investing if you want to break out of the rat race and become rich and wealthy.

Workspace – requires daily structured time, learning new ways to communicate effectively and meeting set goals, if you want to climb the ladder of success.

Today I want us to look at the scissors in our hands called marriage. Are you holding it wrongly and wondering why it seems not to function as it does for others?

Funny enough, we had been there too.

No matter how much we prayed, spoke, fought and received counsel’ we just couldn’t arrive at a place of love and friendship?

What changed for us? Our attitude towards our marriage.

We first had to believe and agree that marriage was priority in our life and we were committed to it and will do whatever it takes for our marriage to succeed.

These are some of the things we imbibed into our marriage;

  • Humility – No matter whose ego was hurt; be it hubby or me, we would discuss, learn from it and let it go.
  • Submission – my husband’s will and consent mattered in my daily decision and will try as much as possible to carry him along.
  • Words - watching the words of my mouth daily and making sure it uplifts not destroy. This is especially to us husbands.
  • Love – finding ways to serve and help my wife as she serves and helps me.

As our attitude changed, it became a competition of who will outdo the other in love.

Sometimes the selfish part still comes out but these attitudes are becoming habits and we are confident that we will finish the race together and in style.

Dear friend, what scissors (situation) are you dealing with right now?

What changes are you willing to make for your scissors (situation) to function optimally?

Think about it.

Love
Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative
Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)

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Richard & Ngozi Okonkwo, a husband-wife team usually called Ngee & Rich by friends are HABIT INSTRUCTORS and founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative. KMA is a non-profit organization which believes that the “ONENESS” in marriage brings out the beauty in marriage and reflects a healthier society, as God originally intended.

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