Ngee says…

How are we doing in this season of unprecedented situations? For us, especially for me, it is a season of seeing life differently. We all know that most countries have been on lockdown, including Lagos Nigeria. As many pondered on the effect of the lockdown; I personally saw it as an opportunity to strengthen the family bond between hubby and with the children too.

I can categorically tell you that this lockdown deepened our roots of love for one another, simply because we changed our perspective, by intentionally deciding to see differently.

Now let’s bring this into our marriage. I received a call from a friend who desperately needed assurance for what was going on in her marriage. All I said to her was it’s time to see differently. I then reminded her that as much as I never liked what happened to me at the beginning years of my marriage; I am better for it and using it to help others find their way in building, rebuilding and keeping their marriage.

Rich says…

We are all in the lockdown situation as occasioned by covid-19 infection. What will become of us during this period and even after it, depends solely on our perspective, which is what we can see and perceive.

We must all encourage ourselves and use the excess time in our hands purposefully to bond more with our spouses, children and most importantly God.

Actively planning and putting structures in place for our lives after covid-19 is crucial in this season.

The real question is, what have we planned and what are we doing now in pursuit of our plan?

To you our dear reader, no matter where your marriage is at, it is time to see things differently. Ask yourself this question – is my spouse called/created to compliment or complement me?

Compliment is appreciating another with words. Complement is the ability to help another (bear fruit) become.

If you can answer this question correctly, your perspective of what is happening in your life and marriage right now will change.


“Remember we are not created to be comfortable but to bear fruit/produce in all seasons.” … Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply… (Genesis 1:28A).

This is the whole essence of life.

Ngee and Rich
(Dr Richard and Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructors
Founders – Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).