Few days ago, I got into a conversation with a friend who kept complaining about her husband. I simply said to her “… If you are minding your part, you will not be seeing this amount of flaws”. She was silent. Today I want to share on your marriage needs you.

I truly do not know if it is a culture thing but if 100 people come for counselling, 98 usually believe the problem is solely the other party. How we get to this conclusion still amazes me.

Though your marriage needs your spouse; your marriage needs you actively playing your part too for it to succeed. Take a look at your complaints; have they really made a difference in your spouse?

As husbands and wives, it is time to put on our work boots and get to work. I told my friend during our conversation to pick up a broom and sweep. Then I asked her to look at her neighbour’s work too. For her to look at her neighbour’s work, she had to stop her own work. I then reminded her that the first rule of marriage is to do your part. Whoever (husband or wife) notices the problem, is the one to begin by playing their part and gradually find ways to help the other see and play their part too.

Marriage is comprised of two (2) servants but usually one (1) steps out in faith, then the other follows.

But he who looks carefully into the faultless law, the [law] of liberty, and is faithful to it and perseveres in looking into it, being not a heedless listener who forgets but an active doer [who obeys], he shall be blessed in his doing (his life of obedience).
James 1:25 AMPC

Step out today in faith, begin to apply what is necessary and let your seed of service with time yield good harvest.
Ngee (Mrs. Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructor
Founder Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.
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