Someone, or would I say that a lot of people usually say to me that I am quite lucky in marriage. I usually respond with laughter, but today, I want to remind you that ‘Your Dream Marriage Is Just A Goal Away’. Everyone who gets married goes with the notion of ‘Happily Ever After’. Yet according to Google, using USA as a case study, one out of two marriages are likely to end in separation and divorce. The question we must then ask ourselves is that ‘what can we do to change the narrative?’

The answer begins with you believing that your dream is just a goal away. This simply means that every couple has an ideology of the kind of marriage they want, but very few people have set goals to achieve their desired marriage.

Recently, our Loveskool (singles) platform had a conversation in this line, and I had to share a few tips that we feel are part of the building blocks of a great marriage:

1. Every couple should have a clear, shared vision of the kind of marriage they desire.
2. This clear vision should be the parameter on which the family goals are set.
3. A goal without a clear vision is simply a wish. Therefore, couples have to set goals with timeline and review them periodically.
4. Goals don’t work themselves. This simply means that the goals should be delegated to the person who has strength in that particular area (whether it is the man or the woman), while the other becomes the accountability partner.
5. Count the cost of the goal you desire to achieve. Remember, everything has a cost, and when we do not prepare for the cost, we usually do not finish well.

• What is the cost of your dream marriage?
• Are you willing to pay the price it needs?

A lot of couples desire a great marriage, but very few are willing to pay the necessary price it requires. So today, we are asking, “Are You Willing to Walk the Talk?”

Ponder on this scripture Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, and this quote as you determine to build the marriage of your dreams.

“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”

“Marriage is sharing life with your best friend. Enjoying the journey along the way and arriving at every destination…together”
-Fawn Weaver.

Love,
Ngee (Mrs. Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructor
Convener – Woman and Marriage
Founder Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.
LOVE IS SERVICE.