Many of us may know the rule of a drowning swimmer. If at the verge of drowning, we are told not to struggle. For the lifeguard will save you when you relax because when you struggle, the tendency to drown you and the lifeguard is quite high. So it is in our personal life. When the storm hits us hard and we feel like drowning, let go! Relax, God is in charge. That is the only way you can make it.

Most of we beautiful women usually go the extreme of relaxing and doing nothing when in crisis. Or we tow the opposite trying to do it ourselves, thereby drowning more into problems cum situations.

So how do we relax and let God take charge of our situation?
  • Never act on emotions when things seem not to be going your way. Decisions made in anger, hurt or over excitement, are usually not the best.
  • Pray till you know: This is very crucial. Prayer is like the lifeguard. You need to relax in prayer and trust God by listening to the push, word or instruction that comes in your spirit. We are first spirits, dressed in flesh. So we commune first as spirits then take actions in the flesh/physical body.
  • Is it a seed or harvest situation? This is crucial when we are going through crisis. Some crisis just come without us knowing why but our attitude/actions towards that situation will turn it into a seed that can bear good fruit later. Or it could be a situation we find ourselves in because of our poor choices/sin. This is called harvest time.

Both situations still need us to act right by relaxing in God and obeying the instructions that come our way.

Ladies, whatever situation you are going through right now, do not make it worse by your action or inaction. Learn to partner with God this year and see yourself living a victorious life!

Ngee (Mrs. Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructor 
Convener – Woman and Marriage
Founder Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.


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