Ngee says

Hello people!  For those of us that made it for the LOVE seminar, it was a wow! On this week’s blog, we are looking into keys that will help simplify the mystery called love.

One night, I lay down on the bed and was thanking God for my marriage. I also reminded God of how much I had put into the marriage and how I wasn’t getting the same amount of love. Then I heard a whisper, define love; I flippantly said all I knew. Then I heard a whisper- TO SERVE/ Give without expecting anything in return.

….For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life….(John 3:16)

Then I heard the Holy Spirit asking me, if there was any place in this verse, the benefits of self was shown? To truly have loved, one should think of the other above self.

The first key to lasting love is the ability to SERVE-

To serve someone is an intentional act.  An example of this —in an office environment, we find ways to accomplish our task, through ways that our boss or client can understand and appreciate it. We won’t dwell on how we see or understand the task, rather we are always mindful of the other person(client/boss). This is how we should treat our spouse or intending spouse, if we truly want to fall in love, remain in love and grow in love.

5years ago, my husband wanted to give me a beautiful birthday. Daily, he asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I gave him the same answer daily. Let’s go and lodge in a hotel and spend time with me. On the faithful day, he bought shoes and bags of all sorts. Was I excited? Yes!  But would I’ve preferred the lodging? Yes!

For me, love meant QUALITY TIME—time spent alone with each other.

For my husband RECEIVING GIFTS—buying and exchanging gifts was how he understood love.

To truly show love to my husband the way he will understand, I’ve to buy gifts. That speaks love to him. But for me, when he spends time alone with me, I understand and feel loved. How does your spouse/ intending spouse see love?

Bonding time—

1.    Read John 13:4-15 together. Then wash each other’s feet and compliment your spouse on things you love about them.

2.    … My children, our love should not be only words and talk. No, our love must be real. We must show our love by the things we do. (1 John 2:18 ERV).  Read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman together. Find your spouse love language after the test. Then start showing love to him/her in the love language they understand.