Our recent couples hangout was a blast! But a particular question seems to be popping up between couples and it happens to be; how to manage a spouse who prefers to spend time on their phone than with their spouse.
This has led hubby and I to become interested in finding out about this new addiction to social media that seems to be causing damage in homes; yet most people are unaware of its impact.
Why is social media becoming the new addiction and no one seems to take cognizance of its danger? The answer might be in its subtleness. You post a comment and each time it gets a like, you feel excited; and this causes a release of dopamine. You desire the exciting feel again and again, so you continue to go back. Very few are able to understand that they are becoming addicted and out of the few, a minute percentage actually do something to break the cycle.
The remaining majority simply go with the flow and are willing to continue commenting for more likes, literally doing outrageous things to keep the attention on themselves or to be part of the spotlight.
We should all remember that social media was created for connection but if it takes us away from the most vital connection of our life (our family), we have lost it all.
So let us go back to the drawing board; why are we using social media and for what purpose?
We all crave attention and excitement. Relationships can be painful and not as exciting; so many are turning to social media for solace rather than working on the issues in their relationship thereby increasing separation and divorce rate significantly.
Today, we are calling your attention to social media addiction and how it is affecting your relationship, work and lifestyle negatively. It is important to note that social media in itself is not bad, but how we use it could be abusive and destructive.
I think it is time for all of us to put a brake on social media and how it controls our life; for what you cannot control ultimately controls you.
Ngee and Rich
(Dr. Richard and Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructors
Founders – Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative
“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3.