Few days ago, I heard in my spirit; be still. Declutter your mind! Spend time in my presence!

If you know me, you know that I am fervent in prayers. Like clock work, I pray morning and night. Now the Holy Spirit says I need to spend time in His presence. What have I missed here?

As I began to ponder, I realized that I was so immersed in completing my prayer routine that I might not necessarily have spent ample time in God’s presence. Many of us run our lives and marriages like this too. We have created a routine. The routine is working, therefore it feels like there is no need to change the wheel. But we fail to notice that routine seems to take the place of real intimate time with one another.

Rich says…

“When we are able to break out of the daily routine that we have perfected and get results from, then we have become adaptable and are gaining mastery in the race of life.

So we all must intentionally learn to break out of our perfected routines, in order to catch a breath of fresh air and gain a fresh perspective for the journey”.

Usually, routine is concerned with doing what we are used to but intimacy is concerned with the now/present, growth, feelings and much more.

As individuals, couples and parents, are we set in our routines, that we truly miss enjoying today with one another? Maybe it is time to declutter and just spend time with each other for no reason. Cuddle with your spouse and your children today.

There are things that might be left undone but decluttering (removing unnecessary items – Oxford dictionary) is the way to build an intimate ever-present relationship.

Watch this video to understand how to declutter and build an intimate relationship with your spouse – THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP.

Be intentional about your marriage this year – FUEL YOUR MARRIAGE


Ngee and Rich
(Dr. Richard and Ngozi Okonkwo)
Relationship Coach/Habit Instructors
Founders – Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3