Ngee says…

Hello people! Welcome back to our blog time. We’ve decided to use our blog, to talk in depth about topics we discussed in our’ help’ seminar series. For those who where there, I believe it was an eye opener for everyone! All glory to God.

Why did I get married? Will be addressed in two (2) parts—female & male perspective. Ladies lets dig into the word of God & find answers to our questions. Hmmm!  When I got married, I had a list of all I expected from the marriage. The list was filled with what my husband had to do for me. Then with pride, I penned down the few things I was going to bring unto the table. Not once did I ask what my role in the marriage was or go to the bible. When I started having issues, I knew, I needed lasting solutions. The solution we found, is what we want to share.

…..Now the Lord God said, it is not good (sufficient , satisfactory) that man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet(suitable, adapted, complementary) for him…. Genesis 2:18(Amp).

By the time I read this, I realized how ill prepared I was for marriage. The passage opened my eyes to understand why God paired me with my husband. My role as a wife is to ‘help my husband with his inadequacies’. This simply means, that those things you don’t like about your husband or his short comings are the reason you are in his life. Shocking! It was for me too. But in the process of seeing my role of a helpmeet from this perspective, it became easier to run with it.

The first thing I did was to write down those things about him that brought pain, tears & anger. I decided to pray over them & asked the Lord to open my eyes of understanding. Let’s shed more light on this— my husband is one of the nicest men I know but his tongue was an edged sword. He used words that broke my heart anytime we didn’t see eye-to-eye. I always retaliated by throwing back more hurtful words, which led to a whole lot of quarrelling & bitterness. I then decided to practice the bible passage we just shared. For each time he threw words at me, I went back to God & prayed about it. This helped my own temper & after awhile, I realized that he rarely spoke harshly to me. I decided to talk to him about his words, how I felt about it & how it was affecting the home. We decided to be accountable to each other. Right now, it has become a thing of the past.

What are those things about your husband that you feel is not only hindering your marriage but other areas of his life. Write them down & ask God to show you how to improve those areas. It could be in areas of finances (excess spending), womanizing, anger, pride etc. it might not be easy but with God all things are possible.

Bonding time… compliment your husband daily, for a month & note the changes.

(2) Read Genesis 2:18 together, discuss it & ask him what a helpmeet means to him.