Ngee says…

And the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend(cultivate) ,guard and keep it. (Genesis 2:15AMP).

Hope you enjoyed the last blog on “why did I get married?”, from the woman’s perspective.  This week we look at it from the man’s point of view.

I have never seen anyone who was given a land and told that his neighbor is the only one who has the capacity to pinpoint where the diamonds are, that won’t hasten and make the neighbor his ally (friend)… Men have been given the mandate to tend, guard, keep & improve their area of influence (environment) and to achieve this in full you need your helpmeet.

Then why it is that man haven’t utilized the HELPMEET, God sent forth to help them achieve their goals on earth. Sometimes it could be pride or not understanding the role the wife (helpmeet) plays.  Men like proofs, let’s see the disadvantage of not cultivating your helpmeet.

Rich says….. You are married principally to be a blessing to your spouse. You stand by her, encourage her and build her up with God’s help to her maximum potential, and then you can reap the reward of a great fully developed friend and ally for life.

…And he took a piece of broken pottery with which to scrape himself, and sat (down) among the ashes.  Then his wife said to him, Do you still hold fast your blameless uprightness? Renounce God and die! But he said to her, You speak as one of the impious and foolish women would speak. What? Shall we accept (only) good at the hand of God and shall we not accept (also) misfortune and what is of a bad nature? In (spite) all this, Job did not sin with his lips. (Job 2:8-10).

Job was a man who had a personal relationship with God, yet he didn’t make out time to cultivate the helpmeet that will help him stay the course at his lowest ebb. He didn’t curse God and die. But not all of us can stay strong in time of weakness.

Keeping Marriage Alive won’t be here today. If my husband hadn’t believed in me. He scolded me where necessary, encouraged me and stood by me. Today I’m a full grown woman, helping my husband achieve his dreams. This was only possible because he tended, cultivated, guarded and   kept me.

I’m not saying that men can’t achieve their God given goals. But to truly achieve 100%, we need our helpmeet. God never intended us to achieve 30% or 70% of our goals in life.  God believes in a 100% goal achievement. Don’t let the devil steal the treasures God has ordained for you to reap in full.

 

Bonding time—

1.        Read Genesis 16:1-2 together and look at the consequences of Abraham not carrying Sarah along

2.        Discuss why did I get married from the woman & man’s perspective, and ask each other how you can harness your strengths to achieve more in life..