Hello everyone, it’s been a long while, we apologize for not blogging but sometimes in our life we take a break from a particular thing, look at it, re-strategize and then refire. This is what we have done.

I have been thinking about ‘THE FINISH LINE’ for some months and it truly saddens me when I see how many people are racing after the finish line without living their life or enjoying the journey.

What then is The Finish Line?

The Finish Line is simply DEATH! Yes, I have seen men and Women set goals and keep running the race called LIFE; telling their family members to hold on, tomorrow will be better, just give me another day to attain this … Another year to reach this … another year, another year…

Then we look back and realize that we have missed our children growing up and they are no longer in our lives. We sacrifice time with our wives or our husbands only to realize that we have lost the marriage we were trying to fend for.

My hubby and I bought into this deception/lie several years ago. “Just hold on dear next few years we will celebrate, just hold on in 5 years we will have most of what we need, then I can make out time for the Children and you”

Then suddenly, THE FINISH LINE/DEATH comes calling and we realize that there are things out of our control and we had sacrificed what we hold dear the most.

Don’t get me wrong! SETTING goals are good but RUNNING AFTER THE FINISH LINE IS FOOLISHNESS.

I’m a goal setter and love achievement but when I nearly lost my marriage, we sat down and began to look at our life critically. This is what we found out – MEN/WOMEN ARE NATURALLY WORK ORIENTED. YOU MUST SET UP INTENTIONAL GOALS THAT HELP FAMILY BOND & BUILD UP YOURSELF SPIRITUALLY AND HEALTHWISE

So we began our journey of finding and building a strong foundation that has kept our love progressing at a great speed without losing those things we hold dear.

1. VISION RETREAT – Once a year during our wedding anniversary we take 3 to 4 days out of our busy schedule to discuss, pray, look at all areas of our lives – children, work bonding as couples, target met, target lost, what to drop, what to pick, areas we need to improve and most importantly which areas we need each other specifically for [This saved our marriage].

We also take out few hours to have fun during the Vision Retreat – do something new, exciting – creating new memories.

“MEMORIES ARE LIKE CASH IN THE BANK. YOU WILL NEED THEM ONE DAY WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH”

2. VERIFYING – We share each other’s day, helping one another see and understand life through our stories. We also allow feedbacks – I DON’T KNOW IF THERE IS ANY GREATER JOY, THAN KNOWING YOU HAVE ALLY OR BEST FRIEND IN YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE. NO GIFT CAN BEAT THAT!

3. PLAY TOGETHER AND WITH THE CHILDREN – We always find time to laugh at home. My hubby is the comedian, with our boys. But our daughter and I are the ones that keep up the jist…

We play educational board games, at least twice a month. It’s not easy but that’s the only way to enter into our children’s world, they open up and it helps us understand how they see life and where we can come in.

My question to everyone reading this is?

WHILE REACHING OUT FOR MORE, ARE YOU INTENTIONALLY HOLDING AND BUILDING ON WHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE?

STOP CHASING THE ILLUSION CALLED ‘THE FINISH LINE!’ There is always another goal to achieve or attain. Change your perspective and have a great life.

Love,

Ngee & Rich
Founders – Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.
“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).