Now I’m married, what next?

Ngee says….

Hello people! Hope you all having a lovely week? Our last ‘Help’ seminar was a wow! As usual, we always use our blog to touch on different areas taught in our ‘Help’ seminar series, to reach those that couldn’t make it and to reinforce what was taught for those that made it.

This topic “Now I’m married what next? Helps couples to understand and live with one another after the euphoria of honeymoon is gone. Another name for this topic is ‘vision retreat’. I want to share the short story; I shared in the July seminar.

 

Rich says..         

A key ingredient in marriage is oneness which fosters togetherness and friendship bearing in mind both of you are actually one flesh. Division means two separate visions which actually causes separation in marriage . It’s important to dream together.

I read about a plane crash and no survivours were accounted for. The interesting thing about this crash was that there wasn’t any signal gotten of any emergency but the aircraft was found miles away from its original destination. An investigation was carried out and ‘black box’ was found. When the last conversation of the pilot and co-pilot was played back, they found out that the pilot and co-pilot had different opinions on which airport to land. They both knew they were going to London, but one felt it was Gatwick airport while the other felt it was Heathrow airport. In the course of not agreeing on the particular airport to land, they lost focus and concentration which led to the plane crash. This took the lives of all on board including both pilots. Shocked! I bet you all are. I actually formulated the story to drive in today’s topic.

Now I’m married, what next? Most of us get into a relationship without having or discussing the common goal/vision or agreeing on some basic rules. Then, the marriage crashes and we wonder why? I’m sure you have guessed by now that the pilot & co-pilot is a representation of the husband & wife relationship.

…where there is no vision, the people perish:(get out of control).(Proverbs 29:18 KJV).

Let’s dig through the bible and see what the power of vision can do!

1.    Jacob peeled the bark, so the whiteness could be seen/appear. (Genesis30:37 DRA). ——Both of you must have a written vision for your marriage.

2.    He put them in the troughs where the water was poured out, that when the flocks should come to drink, they might have the rods before their eyes.(Genesis30:38 DRA)———You’ve to make out time from your busy schedule to feed your mind & study the vision together. You both have to make conscious effort to see your marriage through one eye. Not having different ideas for your marriage(home).

3.    And it came to pass that in the very heat of coition(mating together),the sheep beheld the rods, and brought forth spotted,and of diverse colours, and speckled.(Genesis30:39 DRA)—–                             Jacob didn’t set the rod at a different place for the male or another place for the female, because he understood that the power was in both of them seeing the same thing, at the same time & at the same intensity. That was the only way to produce such great results.

Do you want a great marriage?

Then, you must have a common vision together, for every area of your marriage.

Till next blogging when we elaborate more.

 

Bonding time—

Take an evening out (a pre- vision retreat),and discuss on what your expectations were for marriage before you got married.

Set a date for a proper 3-4days vision retreat. 

Love,

Ngee & Rich       

Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).