Several years ago I noticed that I seemed to struggle with any type of scissors. When used by others, it was sharp and worked well but if I tried using it – it just couldn’t work.

This occurred several times, till I studied the scissors 

Looking at the scissors critically, I realized that the scissors only functions optimally when used or placed in a certain way. No matter how intelligent, bold or how I speak or hit the scissors, it couldn’t function as I wanted it to, till I held it the way it was created to function.

This led me to study other scissors (situations) in my  life and realized that every type of relationship or institution has a certain way it must be held or treated if you want to enjoy all its benefits.

Wealth requires – goal setting, planning, saving and investing if you want to break out of the rat race and become rich and wealthy.

Workspace – requires daily structured time, learning new ways to communicate effectively and meeting set goals, if you want to climb the ladder of success.

Today I want us to look at the scissors in our hands called marriage. Are you holding it wrongly and wondering why it seems not to function as it does for others?

Funny enough, we had been there too.

No matter how much we prayed, spoke, fought and received counsel’ we just couldn’t arrive at a place of love and friendship?

What changed for us? Our attitude towards our marriage.

We first had to believe and agree that marriage was priority in our life and we were committed to it and will do whatever it takes for our marriage to succeed.

These are some of the things we imbibed into our marriage;

• Humility – No matter whose ego was hurt; be it hubby or me, we would discuss, learn from it and let it go.
• Submission – my husband’s will and consent mattered in my daily decision and will try as much as possible to carry him along.
• Words – watching the words of my mouth daily and making sure it uplifts not destroy. This is especially to us husbands.
• Love – finding ways to serve and help my wife as she serves and helps me.

As our attitude changed, it became a competition of who will outdo the other in love.

Sometimes the selfish part still comes out but these attitudes are becoming habits and we are confident that we will finish the race together and in style.

Dear friend, what scissors (situation) are you dealing with right now?

What changes are you willing to make for your scissors (situation) to function optimally?

Think about it.

Love,

Ngee & Rich       

Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).