NGEE SAYS…

Attachment as defined by Merriam – Webster dictionary – strong feelings of affection or loyalty for someone or something.

Many of us are so attached to certain things that it has destroyed or affected our lives negatively.

Example of some negative attachment :
1) Taking selfies and counting the number of likes as a source of happiness. If we don’t have enough likes or comments our day is affected/spoilt.

2) As happy as your bank account – some people are so attached to the things they have, that if there is a crisis, they loose their self worth and even go as far as committing suicide.

3) Peer pressure or groups – some of us have formed alliances that are strangling us financially and are also time consuming. But we refuse to let go of such relationships because we believe they help us maintain a certain lifestyle.

4) Falsehood – this is now a common way of living; lying, fake life, pretending for the applause of men/women.
You have put yourself in a particular space and refuse anything to change that; so you are willing to cheat, lie and pretend till you no longer know who you really are.

5) Emotional attachment – this is the number one killer of marriage – when dealing with marital problems we usually fill the void with another kind of attachment; it could be – the children ,coworkers , opposite sex, exes(ex boyfriend, ex girlfriend etc) .
It seems not to be harmful but it usually doesn’t give you both a chance to fight for your marriage.

RICH SAYS… The only attachment that is very important is your attachment to God your maker. And you both should daily draw closer to Him, attaching more and more to Him. Every other attachment is secondary and should be done away with especially if it hinders your marriage. (Matthew 22:37).

Hubby and I had to consciously fight and break these attachments in different seasons of our lives.
But what is common about these attachments; is that the one that is attached usually doesn’t acknowledge that he/she has a problem. But healing, restoration and healthy living can only begin with acknowledging that some attachments are destructive and not good for you.

I had an attachment for years with a close male friend from school. I denied it for years but anyone who knew me closely could attest to it. We never saw and maybe chatted once or twice in a year. While praying I realized that the fullness of love in my marriage could not be achieved, unless I deliberately cleared all attachments especially this one.
That chapter has been closed and I am better for it.

Are you dealing with attachments that are destroying your self-esteem, relationships and even marriage? Close that chapter and enjoy a new level of freedom.

Love,
Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).