Ngee says…
I remember few years ago when hubby and i had just recovered from a near divorce.
We identified areas in our marriage that needed work. One area that required urgent attention was our:
Communication– which affected our bonding – and ultimately destroyed our ability to work as a team .
We had to look for an exercise that will improve this area if we were going to have a headway in our marriage; and leaning ‘Salsa dance’ was our agreed way forward.

As we began to learn how to salsa – we picked certain habits or systems that were vital to the success of our marriage:

1. Choose the music– you both must decide the path/vision you both want to walk together.

2. Our dance steps are complimentary – in Salsa the legs move complimentary in order to get a united rhythm.
This is essential in marriage – we both must understand how the steps of leadership and submission compliment one another. This can only be achieved in the place of TRUST AND ACCOUNTABILITY . I have to trust my husband’s leadership ability and he in turn has to be accountable for me to follow his lead. For if any step is missed discord is apparent.
These steps must have been discussed beforehand and practised again and again together.

Rich says… The beauty of every Salsa dance involves two essential things. First you must dance to the rhythm of the music (vision) and two of you must dance in harmony with your partner (spouse).

3. Change of steps– during the dance, steps are changed to soothe the pattern of music and vision we want to create.
This is only achieved with communication– body language, tone and words.

The dance is exceptional when both have mastered the art to communicate totally or openly with one another.
So it is in marriage – as a couple we must learn to communicate daily in such a way that none never feels left out.

4. All eyes on us – while dancing we aim to be in sync with each other at all times. If you dwell on other dancers; you will miss your step and even cause your partner to stumble.

So it is in marriage – fidelity or faithfulness is an integral part of a successful marriage.
It requires being faithful in body, mind, thoughts and much more.

Don’t compare your marriage with another; rather learn from those you admire and create your own special rhythm.

How many couples will join us and create a special dance for themselves?
Your marriage is God’s gift to you; what you create out of it is your thank you gift to God!

You can also read fight for your marriage as it will help in planning your goals and visions for the year.

Love,
Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB).