Today we will be discussing the 3 tiers of friendship that are necessary for living a productive and fulfilling life.
What is friendship?
Friendship is the coming together of two or more people who are comfortable with one another and share some common interest and goals.
The 3 tiers of friendship are:
1) Mirror friendship
2) Cushion friendship
3) Stretch friendship.
These 3 tiers of friendship are very important in the growth of every individual.
The most popular tier of friendship is the 'Cushion friendship' - this friendship is usually between childhood friends who love you just the way you are.
It's comfortable, they share your ideologies, praise you and mourn with you, always telling you it's okay.
This kind of friendship has one big disadvantage - you can't grow in it.
This group of friends keep you happy but usually become judgemental when you aspire higher or differently from them.
The 3rd tier of friendship is the 'Stretch friendship' - this friendship is built on mentoring. They are where you desire to be or become.
It's not a comfortable relationship most of the time. They criticize you and rarely pat your back .
They are not there to check up on you daily but when you need them, they appear as a sounding board to correct and show you the way.
The 1st tier is the 'Mirror friendship' - this is the friendship that holds the 2nd and 3rd tier of friendship together.
It's a relationship that you have with yourself. A relationship that allows you to see the best of you and the worst of you.
It's the relationship that keeps you strong in the midst of the darkest storms and helps you laugh at your mistakes/situation.
The mirror relationship allows you to spend time with cushion friends without loosing sight of your dream and aspirations with your stretch friendship(s).
Mirror friendship thrives best when God is part of it. He becomes the mirror that helps us love ourselves, learn to love others; while aspiring to become a better you.
Today we leave you with this question:
Do you have this 3 tiers of friendship and how are you nurturing them?
Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative
“Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)