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on Friday, 17 November 2017.


… and its effect on our society

Superiority complex is when a tribe or group decides that they are more important/special than another human being. This false feeling usually turns into a belief to suppress another to the extent that they no more matter or exist.

Examples of persons that exhibited the ‘Superiority Complex’ are;

Adolf Hitler – him and his followers killed approximately 6 million Jews simply because they felt they were more superior.

Apartheid – the whites segregating the blacks by creating a division, to show their superiority. Many lives were lost during apartheid

Rwanda  – the genocide between Hutus and Tutsis of Rwanda; because one tribe felt the other knowingly or unknowingly made the other tribe feel inferior, leading to the massacre of many lives.

Superior leaders – This has led to political agitations in different countries pushing the common man to overthrow and even kill leaders because the leaders felt they were more superior and stopped listening to the voice of the people.    

We can give more factual examples and its effect in our communities.

The major effect of SUPERIORITY COMPLEX to the society is the REBELLIOUS ATTITUDE of the one who feels INFERIOR/ SUPPRESSED.

This rebellious attitude usually leads to;

  • Disunity
  • Agitation for war
  • Poverty
  • Death

Today I want us to look at another superiority complex issue that is starring us at the face daily and yet we ignore or do nothing about it.

This superiority complex is found in the family unit/home, where usually a man believes he is more superior to the woman because of his function as the head of the home. This trickles down into the lives of the children and the cycle is repeated again and again.

If you are reading this; take this quiz to confirm if you have a superiority complex issue:

  1. Do I have somebody am answerable/accountable to when there are issues that seem unresolved in my home? YES/NO
  2. Do I make choices, thinking of its effect on my wife and children or vice versa? YES/NO
  3. When there is a problem in the home, do I make myself available to discuss and listen to the other’s side of the story in order to understand the reason for their actions? YES/NO
  4. Am I willing to accept that I make mistakes and its okay to apologize and learn from it? YES/NO
  5. Do we have rules, discussed and agreed upon by both of us that govern our home and we both are accountable to?
  • If all your answers were ‘NO’ then you have a high level of superiority complex
  • If you had Yes and No, it means you’re working on yourself and there is room for improvement
  • If all answers were ‘Yes’ Congratulations. You are among the few that values the life of another human being. Keep it up.

In our home, we began with the superiority complex pattern, improved upon it and now we value not only the voice of each other but also the voice of our children and the voice of others.

Today we ask each of you to drop the superiority complex attitude and build a home free from

  • Disunity
  • Quarrel and fights
  • Poverty and loss
  • Death of marriage/ divorce

Remember, God made them male and female (Gen 1:27).

Till next time

Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)


on Monday, 20 November 2017.

Yesterday our children’s school held their biennial interhouse sports. Our daughter ran but didn’t make 1st position. The father of the girl that came 1st was sitting right beside us. He just shouted I knew it! I knew she would come 1st in all the races she participated in. Hubby and I turned to ask him why – he simply said these words “we paid an instructor who has been training her for 2 weeks”.

We were silent for few minutes, we relied on the school training but the winner had gone further to train in private and even paid an instructor. The day of opportunity had arrived and she cleared all the races and won a trophy.

Later that evening we had a long talk with our daughter on lessons she had learnt from the race. We also apologized for not giving her the opportunity to prepare like her friend did. Our daughter’s reaction was a classic-she said “no wonder everyone was surprised at her performance”.

This brings me to today’s scripture about Peter working all night and catching nothing is a very important part of our life journey.

It seems he worked through the night and caught nothing; but in reality he was preparing for the opportunity that was to come. If he hadn’t toiled all night, he won’t be available that morning and he would not have caught the abundance waiting for him.

Any result you see or you are getting in:

  • Your relationship with God
  • Your personal growth
  • Your marriage
  • Your children’s life
  • Your work/business etc 

  Is determined by the level of preparation you have put in.

Today we ask you how prepared are you for success in all areas of life?

When last did you attend a seminar, read a book or interact with people who will help your personal growth, work/business or even your marriage?

Stop getting angry with those succeeding they are intentional about preparation; are you?

Ngee & Rich
Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative

Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)

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