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MARRIED TO FIT

on Friday, 07 July 2017. Posted in Blog

I went to the tailor to sow a dress I needed to wear urgently. The material wasn’t enough for the pattern and the tailor bought another material to join to the one I brought.

As I watched the tailor, he began to cut the materials into different sizes and some edges he cut them off totally.

Then I watched in amazement as he began to join them together and by the time he was done, the dress was perfectly ‘ONE’. Every part fitted with one another…

I began to reflect on marriage using the tailor’s steps:-

  1. Material – The material on its own wasn’t enough for the design it was meant for, so the tailor added another material to it.
    The material in this case is you and I, we are designed for something great and we can’t achieve it alone; so God devised a platform/plan called marriage.
  1. Tailor – the tailor is God, He sees the design or end result of what He wants us to be. He pairs two different individuals for a purpose and begins to cut off edges that don’t fit using painful and uncomfortable circumstances/situations in our lives. His intent, His goal is that we may arrive at the expected goal/design/end result.
  1. The Finished Dress – is the coming together of husband and wife, after going through different and difficult challenges, they both begin to understand that the trials and challenges were not meant to tear them apart rather it’s God’s way of forming them into ONE.

The beauty of ‘The Finished Dress’ is the way it fits perfectly together.

This is totally true in marriage. The beauty in Marriage is when a couple begin to understand the power of Teamwork – COMPLEMENTING EACH OTHER continuously until they are “MARRIED TO FIT”.

Our question to you today is –

Are you married to fit?

  • To fit and help each other become the best you can be.
  • To fit and become a heaven here on earth for your children, families and community. So once again we ask - are you married to fit?

Ngee & Rich
Founders/Habit Instructor
Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.
Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)

 

 

The Flaws in the Garden

on Tuesday, 18 July 2017. Posted in Blog

Hello couples, do you know in your marital relationship you are either in the garden, making your way into the garden or actually exiting it consciously or unconsciously. What is the GARDEN and where is it?

The Garden is a prepared placed of maximum productivity and favour. A phase in the relationship where both spouse know the short-comings and strength of each other and still choose to love each other, grow deeper in love and work together to fulfil God’s plan and purposes for their lives.

It is a safe Haven where every couple desires to thrive in. But so often couples actually exit the garden because of the choices they make at the crossroads of life.

Let’s learn from the first ever couple – Adam and Eve in Genesis 2 vs 8. But in Genesis 3 vs 1-7 they made a wrong choice that led them out of the garden.

What where their mistakes Eve assumed that because she could hear differently and faster than her husband she was smarter. She forgot that the only reason she had such gifts of intuition was specifically to help her husband actualize purpose.

She forgot that every relationship thrives on boundaries and after hearing the devil, she did not cross check with her husband.

Adam on his own part did not clearly reveal the vision/goal to his wife and also did not warn her of the cost and consequences of not achieving it.

Where are you in your relationship with your spouse now? What decisions are both of you making deliberately to get you into the garden, or keep you in the garden?

Ngee & Rich
Founders/Habit Instructor
Keeping Marriage Alive Initiative.
Will two people walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3 (CEB)

REACHING OUT AND CLEAVING:

on Friday, 25 August 2017. Posted in Blog

Hi, it's been a while but we are back. Hope you missed us as much as we missed you. It's time for our Saturday Diet.

Before we begin let's try out this test - reach out and touch your spouse right now. If you are finding it difficult to touch your spouse, make eye contact or laugh together then you both have a 'LOVE PROBLEM' in your marriage.

I know most of you will argue with us - no I don't have a love problem, it's simply temperament issues, love language, culture, spirituality and some of you will even add that you're too old for this nonsense.

Stop with that thinking right now! Before you bring all this excuses, let's take a minute and go back memory lane -- can you recollect when both of you were happy together and didn't mind sharing each other's space?

That's how it should be in our marriage(s). When we all just got married these feelings came quite easily but now it seems you have forgotten. It's time to rekindle the flame and keep fanning it till death do us part. So how do we rekindle the flame of love in our marriage and keep it burning forever?

Simple -- the CLEAVE principle.

The cleave principle is a daily decision to hold unto your spouse, no matter the situation or changes that you're going through. It's a promise to be each others QUARTERBACK and CHEERLEADER no matter what!

It's coming out of your comfort zone to become the person your spouse needs for the journey.

HOW TO CLEAVE:

1) Find ways that show and means I love you to your spouse daily.

2)Communicate and verify daily (no excuses anymore - we have Skype, WhatsApp and much more for couples in a long distance marriage).

3) Let your spouse know that they can trust and count on you; by listening to their dream(s) and ask them which area(s) they will need your help.

4) Learn to pray for your spouse and pray together (This has been of great help in our marriage).

5)No matter how yesterday was, let it go/forgive and try again.

6) Changes will come, circumstances will come to tear you both apart; ADJUST AND CONQUER, DON'T SEPARATE.

So today will you look into your spouse eyes and say to them -"I won't give up on us, I will cleave to you and I hope you will cleave to me too; as we build memories that will keep our marriage alive forever".

Love

#NgeeAndRich
(Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive initiative)

www.keepingmarriagealive.com

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