Hi, it's been a while but we are back. Hope you missed us as much as we missed you. It's time for our Saturday Diet.
Before we begin let's try out this test - reach out and touch your spouse right now. If you are finding it difficult to touch your spouse, make eye contact or laugh together then you both have a 'LOVE PROBLEM' in your marriage.
I know most of you will argue with us - no I don't have a love problem, it's simply temperament issues, love language, culture, spirituality and some of you will even add that you're too old for this nonsense.
Stop with that thinking right now! Before you bring all this excuses, let's take a minute and go back memory lane -- can you recollect when both of you were happy together and didn't mind sharing each other's space?
That's how it should be in our marriage(s). When we all just got married these feelings came quite easily but now it seems you have forgotten. It's time to rekindle the flame and keep fanning it till death do us part. So how do we rekindle the flame of love in our marriage and keep it burning forever?
Simple -- the CLEAVE principle.
The cleave principle is a daily decision to hold unto your spouse, no matter the situation or changes that you're going through. It's a promise to be each others QUARTERBACK and CHEERLEADER no matter what!
It's coming out of your comfort zone to become the person your spouse needs for the journey.
HOW TO CLEAVE:
1) Find ways that show and means I love you to your spouse daily.
2)Communicate and verify daily (no excuses anymore - we have Skype, WhatsApp and much more for couples in a long distance marriage).
3) Let your spouse know that they can trust and count on you; by listening to their dream(s) and ask them which area(s) they will need your help.
4) Learn to pray for your spouse and pray together (This has been of great help in our marriage).
5)No matter how yesterday was, let it go/forgive and try again.
6) Changes will come, circumstances will come to tear you both apart; ADJUST AND CONQUER, DON'T SEPARATE.
So today will you look into your spouse eyes and say to them -"I won't give up on us, I will cleave to you and I hope you will cleave to me too; as we build memories that will keep our marriage alive forever".
(Founders of Keeping Marriage Alive initiative)